A marital relationship between two people is one of the significant relationships a person will have in their lives. Every marriage has its thick and thin. During the thick, a couple will feel connected, in love, and passionate about one another. During a thin period, a couple may be cold, distant, argue frequently, and may even contemplate separating. These stages can be short-term, lasting a few weeks at a time, or can be long-term phases that last years.
Marriage is not a stagnant relationship, but goes through different phases as the couple grow older. As marriages move through the various phases and experience life’s challenges together, there are many types of conflict that can occur. It is imperative that the couple workout all the problems encountered by them in the marriage life instead of just giving up on it. Because, it is just not right for a couple to throw away all the memories, time invested, trust built and family created in vain and every problem has a solution, it only takes the couple’s effort to discover it.
What are the common relationship problems?
There are many different concerns that may bring you to couples counselling. These range from simple lack of communication right through to a betrayal or an affair. Some common issues that can be explored through couples counselling include:
- Lack of trust: Trust is a very important factor in a relationship to work it out. Refraining from trusting your better half will create more problems.
- Betrayal or affair: Once your life partner trusts you, it’s your responsibility to keep up the trust by not having an external affair and betraying.
- Different sexual needs or other sexual issues: Many marriages brake nowadays because one cannot satisfy the sexual desires of the other.
- Jealousy: Envy is a bad omen in any relationship, be it for married couple or lovers.
- Lack of communication: Communicating to your partner is very essential to keep the relationship going. Lack of communication induces doubts in the other person’s mind.
- Financial issues: Couples should understand that the current financial status is not permanent and is bound to change when they work hard.
- Work related stress: Work-life balance should be maintained by not being stressed out due to office work at home.
- Abusive behaviour: Violence is not a solution to anything that is going in your life. So abusing your partner will only drive them away from you.
- Family conflicts: Family should be supportive of the couple, otherwise couple should stay away from the family members who are not supportive.
- Different goals and values: A couple should be supportive of each other’s goals and help each other achieve it.
- Different parenting styles: A good couple will follow a neutral parenting technique by adopting from both their skills.
- Controlling behaviours: In any kind of relationship, both should have equal say, nobody should be dominating.
How can couples counselling help you?
- To understand how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship.
- To reflect on the past and how it operates in the present,
- To communicate in a more constructive way
- To learn why arguments escalate
- To negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible.